A great many of us have - in one way or another - been traumatised somewhere in our past. Not only have we suffered greatly, we are likely not to have been able properly to process and digest what we have gone through. A key feature of a good life is a capacity to look our trauma in the eye; and ensure that the future can be a whole lot more hopeful than the past. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/mEznD Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/ADyXC The School of Life runs a global online psychotherapy service that assists clients from over 40 countries. To find out more and book a session today, please visit our website: https://t.ly/xP3EL FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2JJXPQm “Psychological trauma can be defined as a negative event so overwhelming that we cannot properly understand, process or move on from it – but, and this is the devilish aspect to it, nor can we properly remember it or reflect upon its nature and its effects on us. It is lodged within us but remains hidden from us, making its presence known only via symptoms and pains, altering our sense of reality without alerting us to its devilish subterranean operations.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Sophia Pashaei https://www.sofiapashaei.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions https://www.valeproductions.co.uk/

Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ Spot red flags early. This film reveals 6+2 key questions to assess a partner's emotional maturity. Avoid relationship pitfalls and find a truly grown-up connection. #EmotionalMaturity #Relationships #DatingAdvice #Psychology #RedFlags Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/how-to-work-out-the-level-of-emotional-maturity-of-prospective-partners/ “Part of the difficulty of forming good relationships is that we can’t easily tell what the level of emotional maturity might be of the people we meet. There are few outward signs of the quality Someone might ostensibly seem very grown up while still being stubbornly a young child inside. They might have have lots of degrees testifying to their ‘intelligence’ and yet still be highly primitive in their psychological functioning. They could be eloquent about the theory of sound psychological conduct - and hopeless about the practice. Nevertheless, it can help to at least begin with a sense of what it is we should be looking out for in terms of markers of emotional maturity, so that we may know as early as possible who we have on our hands and what our options might be…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Renysata https://www.deancarensyta.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk

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Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ The same fight, everywhere. This film dissects the toxic cycle of feeling controlled vs. abandoned in relationships. Learn to break the pattern, communicate hurt, and build empathy. #Relationships #Communication #Conflict #Attachment #Psychology #Empathy Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/when-one-partner-feels-controlled-and-the-other-feels-abandoned/ “Every day the same argument unfolds, perhaps four or five million times, in different places around the planet, grinding hours of our lives into primitive despair (even as we fly around in our jetplanes and rely on our space age technologies). One partner feels abandoned; the other feels controlled. And the script, from Taipei to Portland, Basingstoke to Algiers, goes something like this…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Diego Lodeiros https://thebrightagency.com/uk/animation/artists/diego-lodeiros Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk

Why are male friendships so hard? This film explores the psychology of masculinity and the barriers to intimacy between men. Can we redefine what it means to be a friend? #MaleFriendship #Masculinity #Psychology #Intimacy #Loneliness #Connection Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://www.theschooloflife.com/the-school-of-life-youtube/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDjlHY5Z2xI&t=7s Learn, heal and grow. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDjlHY5Z2xI&t=7s FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/the-challenges-of-male-friendships/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=The%20Psychology%20of%20Male%20Loneliness "There are, of course, exceptions: buddies who know all about intimacy and cosiness, camaraderie and connection. But let’s state the darker and more general truth plainly: friendship is difficult for men. For every man who can claim a decent male friend, there must be at least eight who – in the honesty of their deep minds – know they have none that truly merit the term..." MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: X: https://x.com/TheSchoolOfLife/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj https://www.nb-animation.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk

Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ Why do some push love away? This film explores the psychology of low self-esteem and the challenges of loving someone who doubts their worth. Learn to break through insecurity and build trust. #SelfEsteem #Relationships #Love #Psychology #Insecurity #Attachment. Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/offering-love-to-someone-who-is-not-convinced-of-their-loveability/ “There are distinct challenges around trying to offer love to someone who isn’t convinced that they are, deep down, worthy of such a thing. Imagine a relationship between Sarah and Dan. It began three months ago and things are flourishing: two weekends ago, they went on a romantic break to Paris, last weekend, she took him to meet her parents, and this weekend, they are going to see a group of his friends in the city he went to university in. All the signs are that they like each other very much and that the relationship may flourish…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj https://www.nb-animation.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk

This film dissects the psychology of attraction and the 9 critical errors people make when choosing a partner. Learn to avoid relationship pitfalls and find lasting love. #Dating #Relationships #Psychology #Love #Marriage #ModernDating Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://www.theschooloflife.com/the-school-of-life-youtube/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=The%209%20Most%20Common%20Mistakes%20We%20Make%20when%20Choosing%20a%20Partner Learn, heal and grow. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=The%209%20Most%20Common%20Mistakes%20We%20Make%20when%20Choosing%20a%20Partner FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/the-9-most-common-mistakes-we-make-when-choosing-a-partner/ “Choosing a long-term partner may be the single most consequential decision any of us ever has to make. No wonder we can get a little scared on dates. If we get the choice right, we may enjoy supportiveness, cosiness and intimacy for the rest of our lives; if we get it wrong, our confidence, health, financial wherewithal and sanity will be on the line…“ MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: X: https://x.com/TheSchoolOfLife/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Rensyta https://www.deancarensyta.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk

Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ Breaking up sucks. Do it right. This film outlines 8 ethical rules for ending relationships with respect and minimal damage. Learn to navigate the pain with integrity. #Breakup #Relationships #Ethics #Dating #Communication #Maturity Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/eight-rules-for-ending-relationships/ “We live - many of us - in highly policed societies where sanctions exist for the most minor infractions. We may have to pay close to a month’s salary for dropping a napkin in a park or driving at 22mph down a clear dual carriageway at 3am.0 But there is one area in our regulated world where few laws exist. In relationships, unless there is violence or egregious abuse, there are no ‘rules’ to speak of. We can with impunity spend eight years with someone and then, just as all their other options have closed, politely tell them that we’ve fallen in love elsewhere and walk out by nightfall - and there is nothing the forlorn party can do (other than weep and lose their minds). But even if no legal sanctions exist, this does not mean that notions of right and wrong cease to apply. There are a host of rules around ending relationships that all decent people understand - and here, framed for our consciences, are eight of the most important…” OUR COLLECTIONS Relationships https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E Self https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv Eastern Philosophy https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X Western Philosophy https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P Psychotherapy https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG Art / Architecture https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb Literature https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi Wisdom from Africa https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Mike Booth https://www.youtube.com/@somegreybloke Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk