Intentions
Intentions matter!
Dictionary.com defines intention(s) as... 1.) an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result 2.) the end or object intended; purpose 3.) purpose or attitude toward the effect of one's actions or conduct.
Intentions are what guide us through life. The lack of intentions is what makes us feel like life is just happening to us. And sometimes, life does just happen to us but we have choices about how we respond to what is happening. Our intentions are what guide our choices.
If you set your intentions to be accepting and positive the outcome will be positive. Pain and suffering can not be avoided; but when approached with a positive perspective there is always an opportunity for learning and growth. When pain and suffering is approached with a negative perspective there is just more pain and suffering.